About My Son, Chris

Allison and Her Son Chris

My Son (Chris Smith) Helps at a Recent Book Signing

You may have read about the turbulent relationship I have had with my adult son in my book, Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children, Six Steps to Hope and Healing for Struggling Parents. My son was serving time in prison when the book released in 2008 from Harvest House Publishers. Today, it has sold almost 100,000 copies and parents around the world are finding freedom from the enabling epidemic sweeping our country. Today, my son has also found freedom—from the bondage of drugs–and prison walls.

Today, Chris and I are walking a new journey—a journey of healing—a journey of relationship restoration. It’s a journey that is unfolding in countless homes as parents begin to set healthy boundaries and find SANITY, and as adult children begin to accept (or not) the consequences of their choices.

How do we heal the broken places in our relationships with our adult children? How do we deal with the consequences of past choices and make effective new choices to positively change our life? How can we successfully weave new memories into our life when so much of the family fabric has been torn and damaged? How can we advocate on behalf of a loved one and not enable them?

There are many questions on the often difficult and sometimes painful road to relationship restoration. Please join me on SANITY Saturday when I blog on topics such as extending the olive branch of forgiveness, trusting, erasing old tapes, confronting co-dependency, working the plan, facing the consequences, aligning our actions with our words, developing a covenant agreement, and more.

Make sure to sign-up for the SANITY Support newsletter and visit the SANITY Support blog to stay in touch. If you have a minute, please scroll down to view a few photos of Chris and me as we’ve taken our journey together.

RECENT UPDATE… Chris successfully completed his 18-month parole without a single glitch and at the end of October he moved from my home into his own apartment in Arlington, Texas. He’s come a long way and I’m proud of him. Like many people, he’s struggling to understand God’s plan and purpose for his life. The road isn’t easy for ex-inmates and ex-addicts, but our God is an awesome God and He will always make a way where there seems to be no way. Thank you for your continued prayers for Chris as he continues to walk this one-day-at-a-time journey.

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A Short Photo History

Allison Bottke and her son Chris

1972 – Cleveland, Ohio

Allison Bottke and her son Chris

1972 – Cleveland, Ohio

Allison Bottke and her son Chris

1975 – Cleveland, Ohio

Allison Bottke and her son Chris

1988 – Chino, California

Allison Bottke and her son Chris

1989 – Huntington Beach, California

CJ and Me 1995

1995 – Faribault, Minnesota

Allison Bottke and her son Chris

2004 – Lakeville, Minnesota
Christopher’s Baptism at Celebration Church
(Pastor Lowell Lundstrom)

Chris and his son Connor John

2004 – Faribault, Minnesota
Christopher and his son Connor John

Allison Bottke and her son Chris

2008 – Stillwater, Minnesota

Allison Bottke and her son Chris

May 18, 2010 – Fort Worth, Texas