About Allison Bottke

The author of the Setting Boundaries book series from Harvest House Publishers.

What is Your Agenda, God?

Solutions Not Problems Notice On Board

I’m having a tough time trying to figure out God’s plan for my life.

I’m overwhelmed by the obstacles and I don’t know which way to turn.

How like God to send me a message via the Harvest House Weekly Devotional.


Monday, August 18, 2014

When I Need to Make a Fresh Start

This devotional by Lloyd John Ogilvie from the book: Praying Through the Tough Times is just what I needed to read today.


How about you?


Allison talks Setting Boundaries Live with Neil Boron and Kerby Anderson

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Please join me LIVE ON AIR TODAY and TOMORROW (Tuesday 8/12 and Wednesday 8/13) when I’ll be visiting with …

Please join me LIVE TODAY and TOMORROW (Tuesday 8/12 and Wednesday 8/13) when I’ll be visiting LIVE ON-AIR with two of the most well-respected and professional program hosts working in Christian talk radio today as we discuss “A Young Woman’s Guide to Setting Boundaries – Six Steps to Help Teens Make Smart Choices, Cope with Stress, and Untangle Mixed-up Emotions.”

You can listen LIVE via online streaming or check back later and listen to the ARCHIVE interviews that will be available within 24-hours on their respective websites. Program links appear below.

A new book in the Setting Boundaries series from Harvest House Publishers has just released this month and it’s becoming clear that we’ve hit on a hot button topic.

“The teen years for young girls can be overwhelming and challenging as they navigate their ability to make the right decisions, and manage their choices concerning parents, friendships, school, sexuality, and faith. Understanding boundaries will equip teen girls to get a better handle on the stress that comes from dealing with people and circumstances that push their boundaries, expand their boundaries, or fight against their boundaries.”

If you have a teen girl, know a teen girl, or are a teen girl, you’ll want to tune in and share these program links.

“Strong physical and psychological boundaries protect us from harm, and from having a negative impact on who we are destined to be. We are not meant to live in pain, depression, and stress that come with a life without boundaries,” says Bottke. “Healthy boundaries can provide us with the faith and courage to stand up and do what is right in tough situations and circumstances.”

Tuesday, August 12 – STREAMING LIVE from 3:00 – 5:00 (CST)
WDCX Radio Broadcasting “Lifeline” hosted by Neil Boron
Special two-hour program
Listen live online: http://www.wdcxradio.com/pages/14462696.php


Wednesday, August 13 – STREAMING LIVE from 1:00 – 2:00 (CST)
IRN/USA Radio Network “Point of View ” hosted by Kerby Anderson
Listen locally: KBXD AM 1480
Listen live online: www.pointofview.net


Again, you can listen LIVE via online streaming or check back later and listen to the ARCHIVE interviews that will be available within 24-hours on their respective websites

Is There a Teen Girl in Your Life?

Book Six in the Award Winning Bestselling Series by Allison Bottke from Harvest House Publishers

Book Six in the Award Winning Bestselling Series by Allison Bottke from Harvest House Publishers

Share a life-changing truth with the special teen girls in your life…a powerful truth that almost 200,000 adult readers have come to learn.

It may be difficult for some adults to believe, but today’s young women are faced with unimaginable pressure, expectations and stress. Now more than ever our precious daughters, granddaughters, nieces, neighbors and friends need to know the truth about setting healthy boundaries. They need the life-changing knowledge that it is possible for them to set boundaries in a stress-filled out-of-control life! And we need to provide them with the tools they need to make smart choices, cope with stress, and untangle their mixed-up emotions. Please join me in sharing this important and timely resource with the special teen girls in your life. Together we can encourage and empower young women around the world to jump off the crazy gerbil wheel of insanity and find SANITY!

PRE-ORDER your books today for the special young women in your life.

And encourage them to visit our new SANITY Support Facebook page for teen girls, where they can take part in a growing community of young women who are learning about the incredible freedom in setting healthy boundaries! They can also learn more about an exciting ESSAY CONTEST we’re launching to give readers an opportunity to share their boundary stories and win prizes!

Setting Boundaries with SANITY Support – March 2014 Newsletter

SS01_ABMarch 2014 Newsletter

Six Tips to Survive Challenging Seasons in Life


(NOTE: This newsletter was delivered to subscribers on Sunday, March 16, 2014.)


As a subscriber to the SANITY Support Newsletter, you’ve most likely read one or more of the five books in the Setting Boundaries ® series. And as a subscriber, I promised to send you regular updates on new books in the series, and provide you with SANITY Support Tips, helpful tools, and valuable resources to live hopeful lives. I promised to blog often and offer free downloadable information on my website to help you find (and keep) sanity in your challenging relationships. However, I have not been very good at consistently doing these things.


But that is about to change, starting with this communication, and I hope you’ll hang in and give me another chance.


I’m deeply humbled by the growing number of subscribers to the SANITY Support Newsletter. Clearly, I’m not alone in my desire to find freedom from living on the gerbil-wheel of insanity that often accompanies life when we have weak or non-existent boundaries. I greatly appreciate the questions, comments, and thank-you notes I receive every day from around the world. Your heartfelt support and encouragement have been such a blessing. Especially during the past few years as the enemy has tried so fervently to stop me from following the call the Lord has placed on my heart.


You see; Satan doesn’t want any of us to be free from the bondage of unhealthy boundaries. He doesn’t want any of us to read books that bring us closer to God—especially the Bible. And he certainly doesn’t want me to write books that promote the need to put God at the center of our lives in order to set healthy boundaries, find peace, and walk in sanity. The fact is, the enemy wants to use every bad choice, negative habit and challenging relationship we have to keep us from having a relationship with the One who matters most—Jesus.

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Setting Boundaries with Our Time – Relax!

I’m thinking this pretty much says it all.



The Boundaries We Push Against

Little Girl Allison

God has a far bigger plan for our life than we could ever imagine.

Trust Him.


For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

Jeremiah 29:11

Tough Love Setting Boundary Advice to a Struggling Mom

6363980-stopA reader sent me the following plea for help. My response might not have been what she expected.
Dear Allison:
I am struggling with issues dealing with my mom and son. My son moved out when he was a teen, he didn’t want to follow the rules at home and was physically abusive to me. He went to live with my mom…he has never been able to do anything wrong in her eyes….she has expected me to be financially responsible but not have a say in anything. His behavior has not changed in the 6 years since he has moved…if I am not helping him, I am a (insert any derogatory expletive here) you name it…he swears at me and tells me I am a horrible parent. My mother and I constantly argue over this, and it has gotten worse. She has him lie to me, evens swears at me in front of him….she totally enables him and deems me the bad parent stating that I abandoned him. I am at a loss here. I am in my 40′s, I don’t drink or do drugs yet I am treated as a horrible person for wanting what is best for my son. I am heartbroken that she really feels like I have treated him poorly and that he thinks I am horrible….I hope you can help me somehow…..I only have my 2 girls.
Dear Reader:
My heart aches for you. However, while the feelings and emotions of your mother and son are important and valid to them … they do NOT constitute your feelings and emotions … and it is critical for you to differentiate the two….and NOT belittle or deny your reality….which is quite different from theirs. Dysfunctional people (and relationships) need to hang on to dysfunctional responses and habits. You must break that habit. You must STOP.
You need to STOP and look at the big picture.
No matter what your son or mother says/does … you are in control of your thoughts and responses. And the fact is, if you are setting HEALTHY boundaries you will not be in agreement with them. Period. Deal with this. Is it important for you to be in agreement with them? Or, to do what is right? Ask God to give you the strength and wisdom you need to be the person He wants you to be.
You have two girls … cherish and love them and show them what love and forgiveness (and not enabling) looks like.
Stand strong and believe in yourself and in what God is doing in your life.
Stop beating yourself up. Get off the gerbil wheel of insanity and find SANITY in this situation.
~ Allison

Boundaries Are All About Love

Cloud Heart PhotoSetting healthy boundaries is first and foremost about love—the love God has for us, the love He wants us to have for own lives, and the love He wants us to share with others.


Setting Boundaries with Difficult People (pg 14)

New Year Resolutions and Setting Healthy Boundaries

Lifeline RadioHappy New Year. May God richly bless and keep you and yours this coming year. Join me today on Lifeline Radio with host Neil Boron and LISTEN LIVE as we discuss how to make God-honoring New Year Resolutions by setting healthy boundaries and making intentional SANITY choices. Begin this new season by claiming God’s promises for your life and learn how to live in the fullness of love, joy, grace, and peace in the coming year. Streaming live online at WDCXradio.com on Thursday, January 2 from 3:00-4:30 PM (CST).

A Teenage Pregnancy by Robin Jones Gunn – Day 1 Countdown to Christmas (12/25/13)


Welcome to the 12 Pearls of Christmas blog series!

My friend and Pearl Girls Founder, Margaret McSweeney, has once again provided a series of inspirational posts that I’ll be sharing with our Setting Boundaries Books blog community over the next 12 day Countdown to Christmas.

I hope you enjoy these Christmas “Pearls of Wisdom” from 12 authors who were so kind to donate their time and talents! If you miss a few posts, you’ll be able go back through and read them on this blog throughout the next few days.

The Pearl Girls are giving away a pearl necklace in celebration of the holidays, as well as some items from the contributors! Enter now below. The winner will be announced on January 2, 2014, at the Pearl Girls blog.

If you are unfamiliar with Pearl Girls™, please visit www.pearlgirls.info and see what they’re all about. In short, they exist to support the work of charities that help women and children in the US and around the globe. Consider purchasing a copy of Mother of Pearl, Pearl Girls: Encountering Grit, Experiencing Grace, or one of the Pearl Girls products (all GREAT gifts!) to help support Pearl Girls.

Without further ado, let the countdown to Christmas begin!

God bless and keep you this Christmas and always.






A Teenage Pregnancy
by Robin Jones Gunn

It was early, early morning, that delicate time of day just before sunrise when it seems as if all of creation is still asleep.

In the cold, gray light she gazed at the infant in her arms. He was less than an hour old and so, so small. Instinct prompted her to draw her newborn close that he might feel the rhythm of her heart. He curled his tiny hand around her finger and she smiled. His eyes closed, and with feathered breath he gave way to the blessed sleep that follows such a long journey.

In weary awe she studied his face, his ears, his nose. He was here. He had come at last.

A single tear fell from her eye and rolled across his cheek. She kissed the tear away but could not kiss away the memories that came with the tears; memories of the day she found out she was pregnant. How exhilarated she felt and yet how terrified. She was young, and there was much she didn’t understand.

Trying to justify her condition to her parents proved more difficult than she’d hoped. But the most excruciating memory was the moment she stood guileless before the man she hoped to one day marry. She had no words to make him understand the awful truth—the child she carried was not his.

Leaving seemed to be her only option. A gracious aunt took her in and welcomed her with open arms. From the moment she arrived she was showered with motherly words of hope and sisterly touches of love. Week by week, month by month, the child inside her grew.

Was it a miracle when she returned home, her belly round, her face flushed, and found him there?

What prompted this man to take her back and make her his bride? Did he now believe what she had tried to explain all along, that none of this was her own doing?

When the time was right they left their small town together, as husband and wife, with her due date rapidly approaching. The labor began—tightening her abdomen with a force she had never before imagined. Perspiration streamed from her forehead. The contractions multiplied with a frenzied urgency until the need to push overwhelmed her young body, and the baby was born.

Nothing of the past mattered anymore. He was here. Naked, perfect, quivering in her arms. With a thrill of hope, she believed that her life, her world, would never be the same.

Now as the first silver streaks of dawn pierced through the cracks in the stable, she tenderly wrapped her sleeping babe in swaddling clothes and laid him in the manger.


Robin Promo Photo Close Up 2013Robin Jones Gunn, bestselling author of the much-loved Christy Miller Series and the award-winning Sisterchicks® series, has had more than 4.5 million copies of her books sold worldwide. Her frequent speaking engagements have taken her around the globe. Robin and her husband live in Hawaii and have a grown son and daughter. You can learn more at Robin’s website.
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