SANITY Steps Defined

Q. What’s all this talk about SANITY?

A. Consider the 6-Steps to SANITY outlined below as a vital tool to help set healthy boundaries in any relationship where strain and stress is present. These steps are consistent in every book in the Setting Boundaries series, and can apply to any life situation where drama, chaos and crisis is robbing you of peace and joy.


Q. Things are desperate and I need help and advice now! Do you have online help for parents who need to set boundaries with adult children? Or for adult children who need to set boundaries with toxic aging parents? Or for situations with difficult people?

A. Have no fear, you’ve come to the right place and help is on the way! We’ll soon be rolling out new materials and online resources, but in the mean time we’ve developed seven topical categories on the new SANITY Support blog where you can participate in ongoing discussions. Click on the various DAILY categories in the 2nd menu bar at the top of the Home Page to read current blog posts and communicate with others via the Comment option on each post.

Q. What do you mean by the term “dysfunctional adult child”?

A. A dysfunctional adult child is someone whose challenging life continually causes us – the parents and grandparents – grief and pain. (see Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children, page 26)

Q.What is the difference between Helping and Enabling?

A. Helping is doing something for someone that he is not capable of doing himself.

Enabling is doing for someone things that he could and should be doing himself. An enabler is a person who recognizes that a negative circumstance is occurring on a regular basis and yet continues to enable the person with the problem to persist with his detrimental behaviors. Simply, enabling creates an atmosphere in which our adult children can comfortably continue their unacceptable behavior. (see Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children, page 29)


There are multiple books in the Setting Boundaries book series.